Friday, January 1, 2010

My 2009

... was the most challenging year of my life, without a doubt. What happened in Hayley Bash's life in 2009?

* My boyfriend of almost four years passed away in March :(
* I moved out of our house we bought together and home with my family
* My beautiful Pa died in May
* A gorgeous friend Elly died in September
* I went on a FANTASTIC 6 week break through the US and London

Basically all I can remember of this year is the traumatic losses and the amazing holiday.

In between there have been friendships strengthened, a lot of hair dyeing, so many hugs, so very many tears and also a lot of laughter and love.

What have I learnt from this year?

You don't know what you've got til it's gone.. Never take anything for granted. Cliches that are so true.

Photos and videos are a great source of comfort. Don't avoid posing for photos. One day they might be all there is left for your loved ones to see you, and they will cling to them as if you were really there. I learnt to take more video. There is nothing like watching Simon on video to make me full of joy and also floor me to the point where I think I can't go on.

Jorja Kate, my little sister, is the absolute joy of my life and when she is away, my mood and state of mind really suffers.

As hard as it is sometimes for me to be clean, a clear room is a clear head. Decluttering became a big deal!

It is so much harder to deal with things when you are tired. Tiredness = fragile. Get sleep.

Stress/grief really does make you lose weight. I've lost about 6-8 kilos or so and it's stayed off so far.

7 flights in 4 days = major tiredness.

The USA is an amazing place to visit, as is London. But there truly is no place like home.

My family is SO GREAT. It is so huge and so loving and supportive. I am so lucky.

** A BIG thank you to those who read my blog and have sent me lovely messages/comments of support during my dark times. Which still creep up on me. It really does make a difference to know people care and are thinking of me. You know who you are. Thank you :)

Goodbye 2009. May you remain the most challenging year of my life. I can't deal with another like you, thanks all the same.


  1. merry xmas and happy new year!
    what a challenging year you've had. it must of been tough.
    i wish you all the best for 2010!

    I love the studded black ballet flats in your old post. I think the shop your thinking of is River Island. is that right? I went to london in 2006 and bought a bag there. I think it might be the same place.
    awesome find! black + studs = awesome

  2. thanks very much for the seasons greetings and well wishes! right back at you. here's to 2010 :)

    I think you are right about River Island. I love the shoes! Studs = right up my alley!